Get Your Fingers Wet!

Understanding a woman’s desires and anatomy is key for satisfying her emotionally and sexually. Even though most men understand that foreplay is required to arouse a woman, they fall short in their technique simply because they do not understand the details of  her anatomy.  If you really want to rock her world, you should go above and beyond the standard clit stimulation techniques. First, use your best foreplay techniques, talking, hugging, kissing, stroking, massaging to get her as turned on as you possibly can. Too often men start with sucking her boob then go directly for her clit. The clit is not the start button, on button, switch button, power switch, or launch button.  You can’t just go for the gold in one fast swoop. There is a process that can not be rushedThese clit stimulation techniques have been tried by me and proven; they’ll have your woman begging for mercy and so much more!

A woman’s clit has over 8,000 nerve endings in that one tiny spot and it is extremely sensitive! When a woman starts to become aroused, the clit becomes extremely sensitive and stimulating it too soon may be too much.

Right at the top of where the labia minora or pussy lips meet is the clitoris. The flap of skin where they meet, which covers some of the external clitoris, is called the clitoral hood.The clitoral hood is there to protect the clit and prevent over-stimulation just like the foreskin is there covering the head of your penis if you have not been circumcised.  Just above the tip of the clit is a short shaft that has the anatomy resembling the mans penis. You may have heard that a clitoris is a tiny pink nub that looks kind of like a pencil eraser, but in fact, the clit is mostly internal. Three-quarters of the organ is under her skin. The average external size of a clit is 1/4 inch to 1/2 inch in length, but clits have been known to be much larger than that, especially when their erectile tissue has been stimulated.

The external portion of the clitoris can also be smaller than that, and “recessed” or “hidden” clits have no portion visible under the hood at all. They also sometimes have folds of skin that sag over the general clitoral area. But having a recessed clitoris doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have a clit, or that having it touched won’t be pleasurable.

To stimulate this inner shaft, during foreplay slide the mound up towards her belly button then press down gently on her lower abdomen with the palm of your hand. Use your out stretched fingers in a vulcan salute to massage the skin on either side of her vagina using the scissors motion to cause the skin of her inner labia aka pussy lips to caress the shaft.  Gradually tease inwards with your fingers.  Never rub her clit directly with out lubrication. Touching a dry clit with dry fingers is a sensation that can be extremely uncomfortable and sometimes painful.

Stimulating the clitoris is a bit like giving someone a massage; it may feel fantastic at first, but if you don’t vary your technique the result can lead to numbness or pain, neither of which are good for driving your woman wild with ecstasy. 

When she starts moaning, writhing and panting, she should be naturally wet enough to use her natural juices, but if not, applying plenty of lube to her hood, clit, lips and pussy is necessary. You can then position yourself between her legs and use your hand to cover from her mound to her taint, aka her vulva. Keep your fingers stretched over her mound and continue to tease and stimulate her clit gently with her pussy lips. This is a fantastic method of stimulating the clit but it can be somewhat tricky. The best position for this is with her lying on her back, and you lying beside her. Start with the gentle massaging method just discussed, and continue until she’s very, very wet. At that point, you’ll want to slide a finger or two inside of her. Take your time. You don’t want to inflict pain, that would kill the mood. When she’s ready for more, place your thumb on her clitoris and start to massage it. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation will double her pleasure, not to mention lead to a very intense orgasm. If your fingers aren’t long enough to simulate intercourse while keeping your thumb on her clitoris, don’t worry about it. The main stimulation here should be clitoral, and it’s perfectly fine if your other fingers don’t move very much; some women actually prefer this.

The clit really isn’t the mystery many claim it to be; any man can make a woman orgasm with the right clitoral stimulation techniques. All you have to do is be patient, take your time and give her a chance to be properly turned on. Start with small, gentle strokes and work your way up from there. Your woman will let you know when she’s ready for all-out clitoral stimulation. Start small but finish big.  Until that time, your best bet is just to let her simmer with desire — the pot will eventually boil over, I promise! Get up in there! It’s a great way to spend a Saturday afternoon!



Part 2

First of all you should respect and honor her and adore her breasts. They are not just some empty balloons to squeeze and press. The more you worship, praise and adore them the more she will open up to you. As I have said before, open and clear communication is vital. Tell her what you desire and what you want to do to her. This will build trust and the more she trusts you the easier her orgasms will happen. If you want to stimulate her breasts start with kissing her lips passionately! A good kiss will make her nipples erect and will send love-making signals to her pussy too.  When you play with your lovers nipples the same region of the brain will be stimulated as when you stimulate her clitoral,vaginal or cervical/g-spot area. This explains how stimulating her breasts can possibly create an orgasm for her! They are all connected! Begin with sensual kisses and luscious love nibbles from her ear down her neck to her shoulder across her chest and down to her breasts. Gently encircle her breasts with both hands. Lift her breasts up slightly. Kiss and lick each breast on the sides of her breasts and underneath her breasts teasing her nipples before circling your tongue round and round her nipple. Flick her nipples with your tongue. Gently nibble then suckle her nipples as if you were sucking an ice cream cone then lick and blow on them.  Use the rough top of your tongue and the smooth under side of your tongue to stimulate her nipples. Make sure you look up at her and smile!

Pucker your lips and use them to make a seal around the nipple. Suck in and then out without breaking the seal. The nipple will feel alternating currents of vacuum and pressure. Be gentle, less is always more.  Use caution if your partner wears nipple jewelry you don’t want to accidentally swallow it.

Whether you use suction or combine suction with nibbles with your lips (not your teeth), licks or tongue strokes, there is really no limit with how you can orally stimulate your partner’s breasts. If you are unsure of what she likes, ask her to suck on your tongue or lips to show you how much suction she prefers on her nipples. When she gets aroused her breasts can swell up to 25%. This natural boost not only looks better but makes them also way more sensitive!

Try orally stimulating her breasts when she is straddling you and hanging her breasts down in your face above you. Her breasts will be more sensitive when they are hanging down because of the increased blood supply to the nipples. Squeeze both breasts in your hands. Push her breasts together and suck both nipples at the same time. If you want to make her laugh or giggle do the old motor boat by surrounding your face with her breasts and shake your head as you make a motor boat noise for a minute. That’s sure to make her smile!


Penis and Breast Play Some women find it highly arousing when a man caresses their nipples with the tip of an erect penis or by pulling his foreskin up around the nipple. If he pulls apart the opening of his penis, he can sometimes slip the tip of an erect nipple into it for added pleasure. Some women get aroused by having  an erect penis sliding in-between her well-oiled breasts as she squeezes them together.

Toys There are products on the market now that can apply direct suction and vibration to the breasts and nipples. Vibrators, especially those with rigid or pronged attachments are also very effective. For a bit of kink and to add intensity, you and your partner might consider using a leather flogger or whip. You can find various breast toys online.

Nipple Clips  Although nipple clips have been around for a long time they should be used with care. Clothes pins and a pair of chopsticks should also be used with caution. Never leave anything on the nipples – numbness is a warning sign – for too long or you risk causing permanent nerve damage.

Hot and Cold Temperatures  Ice on her nipples can be especially arousing especially if you alternate it with drinking something warm before sucking, kissing or blowing on it.

Food Play  Engage in a little erotic food play by dabbing whipped cream, chocolate sauce or honey on her nipples before slowly and seductively licking it off. Pour your favorite drink on her nipples and lick it off.

Sensuous Materials  Try stroking and caressing your partner’s breasts and nipples with silk, velvet, fur, leather, feathers and even rougher textures like wool, terry cloth or a very soft brush. Use a combination of textures for increased sensation.


Save the most intense sensation until the end. As with every sexual activity, it is important not to make any changes to what ever you are doing as she builds and reaches her orgasm! Embrace the mystery of your woman. Keep in mind that what works on her today may not work next week because her bodies sensitivity is directly connected to her hormones and monthly cycle. Also keep in mind that every woman likes breast play in a different way so talk it over and ask her what she wants and how she wants it and as you are playing, pause and ask her if what you’re doing feels good. She should let you know by her body language, pants and moans. I hope this has helped. Just keep in mind don’t think too much about it or about performing perfectly it is more important to just enjoy each others bodies than it is to make her cum.

 Happy Breast Play! ♥


How to Give Her A Breast Orgasm

Part 1 of 2


I can only remember having a breast orgasm personally just one time. I was shocked when it happened because I didn’t know it was possible! I extremely enjoy having my breasts massaged, tweaked and  bounced. I have a friend who has hypnotized his girl friend to have breast orgasms. What ever it takes right? I read up on the subject and took notes and watched some porn of course and here are the techniques I want to pass on to you.

Begin by using the feathery touch of your nails or fingertips to stroke the delicate skin of your partner’s torso and under her arms. Slide your fingers down across her stomach, making slow, lazy circles over her belly, midsection and finally up to her breasts. Slide your palms in circular motions around the entire breast area. Press firmly. You can either do one breast at a time or use both hands and do both together. Continue even after her nipples become erect. Go faster, slower, harder. Cup as much of each creamy mound in your hand as possible and move them both around. Knead them. Squeeze them gently then more firmly.

Massage her nipples with or without oil. Press on them. Roll them gently between your thumb and forefinger. Use firmer and firmer pressure.Tweak them. Pull them and hold or pull and release completely in rapid strokes.Take hold of her nipples and shake her breasts with them.

Use one hand to encircle her breast and push it up and out similar to a push-up bra. This pulls the nipple taut. With your other hand, roll, pinch and pull the nipple. Wet your fingers and play with it. Quickly rub your fingers back and forth. Use the pad of your index finger to rotate the nipple in small circles.  Flick your finger or fingernails across each rosy bud or erect volcano in my case.

Try any or all the above techniques while you and your partner are in the shower or bath because having her breasts and nipples lovingly lathered by her mate with either a soft wash cloth or sponge or even just his hands is a real turn on for many women.

Next, I will discuss oral techniques so be sure to visit my blog again next week! In the mean time, try these manual techniques on your lover and find out what is her biggest turn on! Enjoy!

Enjoy March 14 with Steak and a BJ!

I love giving blow jobs during sex!! I love the teasing, seducing and edging. I love rubbing a hard cock across my face. Tapping it on my cheek and nibbling it with my lips licking round and round the rim and flicking the slit with my tongue! Then slowly swallowing the shaft all the way down my throat massaging my tonsils with the head as my tongue swirls around the shaft. What I do not love is the taste of semen. No matter whose semen it is, it tastes like a cross between sour juice, bitters, mold, and a warm salty dirty sock. Even Bobby Flay couldn’t make this milky concoction taste good. Disgusting. I love a nice pearl necklace, but the taste of semen makes me gag. Many women are happy to have lovers ejaculate in their mouths and swallow the semen. Others can’t stand the idea. If a women objects to accepting semen orally, men should respect her wishes. No one should ever feel pressured or coerced in lovemaking.
                                                                                                                         Some people may describe it as tasteless and some may describe it as slightly sweeter. The semen of some men may be excessively salty and in the case of others it may be even bitter.  So, how does semen actually taste and is there anything that you as a man can do to improve its taste?
As for improving semen’s taste,the composition of seminal fluid is constant because it includes a precise mixture of components necessary to support sperm. If its composition is constant, its taste must be, too.
                                                                                                                         But many women insist that his diet has major impact on the taste of semen. Former porn actresses who tasted hundreds of men’s semen, say vegetarians taste best, that eating fruit and drinking fruit juices a few hours before sex improves the taste, and that smoking, alcohol, meats, and asparagus make semen less enjoyable. So to change cum’s taste, guys have to alter their diet, which is unlikely to happen considering most dudes love A1 sauce and steak.
Foods reported to ruin the taste include;
red meats
deep fried foods
asparagus (which makes sense because of its well-known ability to alter the aroma of urine )
foods with high sulfur content such as;
foods with strong and foul smells, such as;
and onions,
may ruin your semen taste. So, avoid these foods plus one nonfood item, cigarettes.
And if you are too fond of your fast food burgers, it may be time to reconsider. All the chemicals present in junk food is only going to make your semen taste bitter. 
                                                                                                                       Fruit juices are often recommended to sweeten semen, notably,
PINEAPPLE. The juice is not only believed to improve the taste of your semen but is also considered to improve its smell. So, don’t forget to include pineapple juice in your diet along with these spices
and peppermint,
they are especially recommended to make semen taste better. So, add these in your regular diet.  Other foods that are known to make it sweeter and tastier include;
Basically, if you include foods high in natural sugars, your ejaculate is probably going to taste sweeter than usual. So, include fruits in your regular diet.  Think anything that’s natural and from the earth.
                                                                                                                     While there’s no authoritative research on this subject, the foods that sweeten semen–fruits and vegetables–are good for your health, while most of those that spoil it are risk factors for heart disease and cancer. So sweetening semen improves men’s health. If you really want to make your sex partner crave your cum, just try different foods and see what effect it has on your ejaculate. Taste yourself and share your wisdom with others who may be interested!
                                                                                                                           If a man would rather not change his diet, or if diet changes don’t provide sufficient taste enhancement, any foulness can be masked. While providing fellatio, women might suck on peppermint or wintergreen lifesavers or an Altoid. To make swallowing easier, keep a strong-flavored drink and a straw handy: wine, liqueur, grape juice,or ice tea. After the man ejaculates, take a sip.
                                                                                                                             But, if a woman would rather not swallow, that boundary should be respected. In porn, the women rarely swallow. Instead, they make a great show of letting semen dribble out of their mouths and massaging it into their skin. Some men enjoy spraying their man chowder on their lovely ladies boobs and body, then massage it in like lotion.  Some men find this erotic and so do I!
                                                                                                                              Finally, I feel responsible to say gonorrhea can be transmitted during fellatio, but other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV, are unlikely to spread orally, unless the woman has bleeding gums or a sore that allows semen-to-blood contact. To eliminate risk of STI transmission, get tested for STIs. Or use condoms during fellatio–and intercourse.
                                                                                                                           Enjoy March 14 with steak and a BJ!

March 14 , Steak and a BJ Day!

This holiday for men is the equivalent to Valentines Day for women. Valentines Day is widely based around the pleasing of women we love, but now, a month later, these women we love can please the men they love. On Steak and Blowjob Day, every man’s women will fire up the grill and cook them a big juicy steak that is just to his liking and then she will give him a big juicy blowjob, just to his liking. It can be in whatever order he wants, and when ever he wants.

I hope you treated her right on Valentines day! *WINK*


Did You Say Anal?

Back door , Brown eye, Brown Star, Chocolate Starfish, Corn Hole, Hershey Highway, Dirt Road, Dookie Shoot, The Church in the Valley, Butt Hole Etc…. No matter what you call it, some women declare it is EXIT ONLY… and that’s OK. However believe it or not, there are many people who have found anal play and anal sex to bring much pleasure! A lot can be used under the category of anal play: fingers, penises, tongues, toys, his or hers. Doing it in the butt used to be reserved for “birthday sex” only or special occasions but now it is becoming less taboo which is great! Some guys are just not into butt sex and that’s OK too! They will never know the pleasure of having their penis enveloped by the tight grip of a beautiful woman’s tight ass.

If you are in a relationship, it can be an exciting new thing to try. It all requires communication. If you are single it may take longer to get to the topic to ask her if she is into it, just ask her politely. You may stumble upon the answer during casual sex if you drift a little further south while going down on her it all just depends on her response. She may clench up and become rigid and ask what are you doing and that’s OK its not the end of the world as we know it….or she may say YES YES YES OH GOD YES! Just promise as a gentleman that you will never try to sneak in her back door without her permission!

You may be a rookie or you might not have knocked at her back door for a while so here are some tips/reminders.  Lube is your new best friend! You can never use too much lube! Thicker lube such as coconut oil or coconut butter is best for back door play. There are some lubes out there that are made specifically for anal play. The anus does not self lubricate like the vagina so fill her up! If you dive in like a horse in heat you will be banned from all sexual activities in the future.  Porn stars make anal look easy but you know it isn’t, so don’t think you’re doing it wrong if it doesn’t look like it does in porn. Porn stars are paid to make it look easy.

Before rump riding, start small with a pinky inserted then work your way up to a thumb then a small toy or vib then a butt plug then your pride and joy AKA  your penis. Just remember it’s not a race and if she says it hurts, either stop, use more lube or go slower! The main thing is to go very slow and follow her cues before you go balls deep! Tune in to her signals. She really has to relax and take a lot of deep breaths.  After that anal sex can be amazing! It is super intense so you need to be extremely delicate and a good listener. Sometimes when you first penetrate she may take a sharp breath, that’s normal just pause until she gives you the go ahead to start slowly pumping. Yes, it hurts so good, it feels tight, like a sharp muscle cramp, it feels full and super intense. If she changes her mind, back out very slowly. Its not a game changer just try again later when she is ready. This is not an act that should be taken lightly. You both have to want it and you both have to be ready.

For me, I like to get really worked up, as in lots of kissing, foreplay, oral and vaginal sex before attempting anal sex. I like all positions and there are several to choose from. Missionary, on your side, her laying on her belly, her sitting on your peg, lowering her self down slowly and doggie. What ever position you choose the gentlemanly thing to remember is to let her set the pace. If you choose to do it doggie, you can penetrate her pussy and massage her ass with your thumb at the same time causing her to get used to the feeling of something touching her hole. It may help her back door muscles relax and open up easier when you gently push your penis inside. Just remember to use lots of lube! Lube on you and lube on her. Lube on any toys before inserting. Use a towel under her butt to catch the drips and for clean up after the dirty deed is done.

Anal sex does take a lot of effort. If she is uptight, she may want to use an enema before attempting fudge-packing. It’s quite a process and takes away valuable time from the fun. It is not mandatory but it does help “clear the path” if she had a heavy or spicy dinner that night. It all requires patience, understanding and open communication between the couple. If you are requesting entrance to her exit hole, you should know the risk of a mess. There should not be a big clean up afterwards on you guys, especially if you wear a condom. However there is that heart stopping moment when you pull out that she is praying you don’t find an unwanted present. I recommend having baby wipes close by to wipe her clean after the big O. Even if you are an anal pro she still worries about having an accident. If you use toys it is mandatory to clean them thoroughly with hot water and soap. But toy clean up can wait until after you cuddle and share the after glow. She will get pissed off if you don’t give her the proper respect and after care. Personally I enjoy anal sex as long as it is done right. It just takes respect and patience.



Get In The Zone…Her Erogenous Zones Continued….(part 2)

Knowledge is power! Understanding where a females erogenous zones are can help you get her in the mood and drive her wild at the same time! The mystery of a woman’s body is arousing, sensual and to some men confusing. Women are all unique and understanding what it takes to win our hearts and turn us on can be difficult. Since foreplay is a must I will show you where and how you should spend your time before you dive in! We all love to be touched, caressed and to be the center of your attention. Rather than going straight for the bull’s-eye use these tips to give her a night of sensual pleasure and not just sex. Here are the locations you need to start paying attention to.


Zone #7 – Her Breasts and Nipples

Just like our butts we know men are mesmerized by our breasts! So many men immediately focus far too much attention on a woman’s breasts and nipples. There is a possibility she is not enjoying this as much as you are depending on the tenderness of her breasts (and the time of her cycle).  But then again there are some women who can orgasm just from having her breasts and nipples touched just the right way! The key words here are THE RIGHT WAY. Don’t give into the temptation to grope her like an awkward teenage boy, show some restraint and self-control. Some women have very sensitive breasts and being too rough may hurt them, then its good feeling gone! As you can tell, we enjoy the anticipation… so build up the momentum. Light caresses, kissing, as well as sucking and flicking of her nipples with your tongue as you gently squeeze and massage are better options  and can go a long way. It’s all about finding out what turns on your woman!

Zone #8 – Lower Back

This is another one of the most overlooked zones and a spot you should pay more attention to. A womans lower back is very sensitive, which makes it the perfect place for kissing, licking, nibbling, massaging and stroking!  This can help her relax and become more open for sex. Take it slow and observe her reaction. If she enjoys it spend more time and switch up your moves for variation. If not then continue on your expedition.

Zone #9 – Buttocks

Many women like  it when you play with their behinds. Squeezing and spanking or gently scratching or massaging her butt cheeks may start her purring. Fondling and squeezing our rear can increase arousal. Remember the muscle mass here is more dense so she can handle more pressure here than other parts of her body. Some women like to take things even further and enjoy your licking, sucking and of course penetration. There are some girls who prefer this area left alone. Communication goes a long way to find out what she likes and doesn’t like. Never assume that her back door is open to you!

Zone # 10 – Abdomen

Women get pretty self-conscious about the look of their belly but little do they know how fun it can be to let her lover play with it a little bit! Be careful not to tickle her. Tease her by planting gentle kisses, drawing lines and circles with your finger or signing your name with the tip of your tongue then work your way down!

Zone # 11 – Lower Belly, Mons, Clitoris and Vagina

Every guy knows that the most sensitive erogenous area of the female body is this zone. The clit is not the on button, power switch, launch pad or starting point of foreplay! There will be no question in her mind if you have already caressed, massaged, and kissed all the areas above she will be more than willing for you to touch her here. Wetter is better. You can stimulate her clit with your lubed finger, tongue and toys or all three at the same time! The clitoris is the most sensitive place on her body. It is the crown jewel of the female body. It has over 8,000 nerve endings in a piece of flesh the size of a raisin. Not all bodies are alike. Use her body language, pants and moans to determine if you are in the right place applying the right pressure at the right rhythm. Start by drawing a circle around the outer part of the clit and spiraling inwards to the center. It’s always best to start slow and gentle then ramp up the speed and pressure.  Then there are the lips you may tug, suck and nibble never by-pass them, they need your attention too! The G spot just inside the top of the vagina can be a bit of a challenge to find but she will thank you for taking the time to stroke it! If she says don’t stop for Gods sake don’t stop!

Zone #12 – Inner Thighs

The inner thighs are highly sensitive and respond well to stroking, kissing, licking, sucking and nibbling. You should do more than one courtesy stroke as you pass by on your way to her sweet spot! Stimulating this area is a great way to build up the anticipation. Take your time but remember not to get too aggressive. Gentle light caresses will drive your woman wild. Women prefer things soft and slow at this location. You could entice her by tracing an ice-cube up and down each thigh!

Zone #13 – Behind Her Knees

A woman’s knees is possibly the one part of the body that almost every one over looks. The many nerve endings in this location makes it one of the most erogenous parts of her body. Soft licks and nibbles on the backs of her knees can drive her crazy! Be sure to take it easy since this area is so sensitive, you want to be gentle.  You don’t want to tickle her too much. It’s best to be brief and simply kiss or nibble the backs of her knees as you work your way up.

Zone # 14 – Her Feet

Surprisingly, so many men over look this important part of her body! You don’t have to have a foot fetish to enjoy the benefits of paying attention to her feet. Truth is, rubbing, licking or sucking on her toes or feet will stimulate her sexually. Why do you think women enjoy pedicures so much? As you caress her with oil, trace the contours of her foot and ankle with your fingers. As she starts to relax, give her a gentle foot massage. Take the time to massage her entire foot from her toes to her calves. Reflexology shows how you can stimulate different parts of her body that you will be visiting through her feet.

The key to mastering the art of seduction and foreplay is to pay attention to what she likes. Give her what she wants, and she will thank you later! With the right technique, you can have her melting!


Get In The Zone…Her Erogenous Zones Part 1 of 2

Knowledge is power! Understanding where a females erogenous zones are can help you get her in the mood and drive her wild at the same time! The mystery of a woman’s body is arousing, sensual and to some men confusing. Women are all unique and understanding what it takes to win our hearts and turn us on can be difficult. Since foreplay is a must I will show you where and how you should spend your time before you dive in! We all love to be touched, caressed and to be the center of your attention. Rather than going straight for the bull’s-eye use these tips to give her a night of sensual pleasure and not just sex. Starting at the top, here are the locations you need to start paying attention to.

Zone # 1 – Her Mind

We just went over this in my last blog however it doesn’t hurt to reiterate the importance of stimulating her mind. Lets face it women don’t get turned on the same way men do. Men are more visual while women are more turned on by thoughts and feelings. Ladies are more complex creatures who need stimulation in multiple areas at once to be satisfied. For women, sex is just as much an emotional and psychological experience as a physical one. If you are the type of guy who wants to launch his girl to the moon, don’t get your rocket stuck in her landing strip.


Her head and scalp may not be the first erogenous zone that comes to your mind, but think of how good it feels to get a shampoo and cut at the barber shop or beauty salon. It feels good and it is very relaxing to have your hair/head stroked, scratched, massaged and tugged now doesn’t it?  Use long sweeping strokes with your finger tips. Be gentle if you use your nails. Tenderly touch your finger tips on her temples and gently massage in a circular motion. These moves are soothing, seductive and sensual at the same time!

Zone #3 – Back of her Neck

Every woman dreams of her man wrapping his arms around her and kissing the back of her neck. You can have her melting in your hands without even removing any clothing! The back of her neck is highly sensitive to kissing, touching, massaging, licking and nibbling. Start at her shoulders and make your way massaging her neck to the base of her scalp. The fun is in experimenting to find out what she likes. Pay attention to her body language and moans as a gauge to know if you are doing it right. Its called necking for a reason!

Zone #4 – Ears

Whispering into her ear may give her chills (the good kind). Caressing them will drive her wild! According to Google,there are 120 acupressure points on her ears. Her earlobe can be very sensitive so be gentle. Kiss her ears with care or massage them gently with your finger tips. Don’t miss the chance to use your lips to trace her outer ear in a light feathery pattern as you tell her your sexual fantasies with her. Stimulating this area can send sexual energy all throughout her body! The dirty talk plus your warm breath on her ear is sure to wake up the rest of her senses!

Zone #5 –  Mouth and Lips

A kiss can send her desire skyrocketing as dopamine levels in the brain increase from making out with you triggers her body to release oxytocin. Both of these natural chemicals make her feel good and put her in a sexy mood. Lips are sensitive to pressure, moisture and temperature. Women prefer soft, tender, sensual kisses so don’t get too sloppy. Let her take the lead and she will kiss you how she wants to be kissed. If she is into it, a playful nibble on her bottom lip may get her into the mood.

Zone #6 – Her Wrists

A woman’s wrists are another zone most guys tend to over look. Most women love having this sweet tender spot kissed, nuzzled or nibbled by their lover. Take your time to blow, kiss and caress her wrists. She will be happy you did and so will you! To drive her wild, don’t forget to explore various locations of her body. You might find a new spot she never knew she loved! Pay attention to what she likes and give her what she wants, and she will thank you!

The key to mastering the art of seduction and foreplay is to pay attention to what she likes. Give her what she wants, and she will thank you later! With the right technique, you can have her melting!

To be continued…..



Foreplay of her mind before touching her body… the secret to wet sex!

 A good relationship is a divine state of being. It does not happen by itself. It happens through open minds and communication with trial and error. Respect, trust, honesty, loyalty, understanding, patience, and having the same life styles are just a few things that come to mind immediately that help make a good relationship.

If you are not a selfish lover you won’t have to wait for some lovin’. Women usually want to experience what the thoughtful, kind, gentle, caring man has to offer…the pleasures she dreams of!  Make her feel comfortable, safe and secure. You need to learn to arouse her slowly and gently starting in her mind then moving to her body providing foreplay with enthusiasm and desire. Build her up, sincerely tell her she is beautiful, tell her how much you desire her, put her insecurities to sleep, remind her she is worthy, make her melt in your hands! Kiss her deeply as if you were starved for her.  Kiss her forehead, her cheek , her lips, her ears, her neck. Massage and suck her breasts gently, making her nipples hard, working your way down her quivering, wanting body. Kiss her thighs and work your way up slowly teasing her and kissing her telling her what you see and what you want to do to her making this delicious foreplay last. Leave no erogenous zone untouched.  Use lube as needed with vibrators and various toys taking her pleasure very seriously.
 Satisfy her successfully not by taking your view of how you think it should go, but by talking to her and asking her what her desires and fantasy’s are and look at sex from her perspective. Pillow talk is always fun and enlightening! It all starts days ahead of the actual encounter. In her mind. Take care of her needs…such as help with house work, cooking and kids to lessen her load, exhaustion and stress level. Empathy goes a long way!
Be spontaneous! Send her flowers to work just because. Hug her often for several minutes at a time and be the last one to let go. Sincerely compliment her. Find out what would build her self-esteem and become active in building it.  Do what ever it takes. Use your intelligence, resources and creativity! Go back to the beginning and pursue her. Take it slow….take your time…and talk to her openly. Find out what her unique love language is…receiving gifts….quality time spent….words of affirmation…acts of service or physical touch and use this knowledge to the benefit of your sexual relationship. Ask questions. Show her you sincerely care and don’t forget to make her laugh! A sense of humor makes a man desirable. Two of the best things in life are laughing and orgasms!
Men, your partner should WANT you to make love to her every morning or evening or both!! After taking good care of her by giving her several intense orgasms, your lover will take care of you as well caring about you and your needs too.  It feels amazing being touched by the person who understands your mind, the person who acknowledges your flaws and loves your soul. The main focus is to touch both her mind and body with foreplay! This is the secret to wet sex! 

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…

If Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 43 is not your style I hope to help you find your love language and your lovers too! When it comes to relationships, 85% of people don’t want perfection, they want the effort. It takes more than just a good-looking body. You’ve got to have the heart and soul to go with it. Seduction is much more than beauty or appearance; it’s generous, it is intelligence, however it doesn’t have to be mysterious.  A good lover seduces his lady’s MIND before he touches her body!
Think about it….what is happening when you feel loved? Do you feel loved when someone tells you that you are awesome? Maybe you feel loved most when someone carves time from their busy schedule  to spend time with you. When you receive a gift does it give you that special tingly feeling of being loved? When she washes your clothes and runs your errands for you, does that give you the warm I am incredibly  loved feeling? What about when she holds your hand, hugs you tight with an  extra squeeze and tops it off with a kiss or a spank on your butt? Does that spell love to you?
As we get older we find out that true happiness is not in how much you make or how many degrees you have or how big your house is or how fancy your car is. It’s finding peace and joy and a calmness in your life that will ultimately become the most important thing to you. Your family is what matters to you, love is what matters.
If life is not going like you dreamed, it can get better with inspiration and a desire for change never leave it to chance.  A small change can become a better day which could lead to a better week which becomes a better month then year which becomes a great life! It feels amazing to experience life with the ones you love.
I think a lot of people don’t know what real love is. Anyone can buy flowers candy and jewelry. That’s an easy way to show your love! But what if she still doesn’t feel loved because you don’t say I love you or because you just don’t think to give her hugs any more and your kisses are half a second pecks? You could give her all the flowers candy and jewelry in the world and she would not feel loved if that is not her love language. Different love languages have different dreams, wants and expectations. Love is those little things you do every day to show you care and that you are thinking of them. It’s going out of your way to make them happy even if it is uncomfortable to you. The way you hold her hand when you think she might be worried or scared, or you save the last piece of your favorite cake for her. The random text in the middle of the day, just to say I love you or I miss you. The way you stop to kiss her when you pass her in the kitchen. It’s dedicating your special song to her and letting her eat your fries; telling her shes beautiful, even when she is in her sweats; with her hair in a crooked pony tail and no make up. It’s putting your favorite TV show on pause so she can tell you her latest idea to remodel the house. It’s slow dancing in the kitchen and laughing at each other till your cheeks are sore. Love isn’t about buying, it’s about giving. True love is in the gestures thought through and tailored just for her.
I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting a relationship with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when you see them walk into a room and smile at you. Your responsibility is to find out her love language and do what ever it takes to make her happy.
It’s never too late to turn it all around. Be honest with yourself and her. If there is some thing in your life that is not what you are proud of doing ….STOP. Life is way too short to continue in the wrong direction if it doesn’t point to love. You don’t have to cheat to lose your girl. You can lose your girl from lack of communication, neglecting attention and disrespect. It’s not always about what you do, some times it’s about what you DON’T  do. Find out what makes her feel loved whether its words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service or my personal favorite physical touch. Only by giving  are you able to receive more than you already have.
There is a difference between having a real relationship and just being together because that’s all you’re used to. There is a difference between meaning  I love you  and just saying it because that’s your routine or ritual. Do it because it’s in your heart not because  you want some thing in return. There is a difference between being together and WANTING an intimate love life together. It’s a relationship not a routine.
Love Language Test: What Love Language Do You Speak?
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five ways to express and experience love that Chapman calls “love languages”: gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch (intimacy).