If Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 43 is not your style I hope to help you find your love language and your lovers too! When it comes to relationships, 85% of people don’t want perfection, they want the effort. It takes more than just a good-looking body. You’ve got to have the heart and soul to go with it. Seduction is much more than beauty or appearance; it’s generous, it is intelligence, however it doesn’t have to be mysterious. A good lover seduces his lady’s MIND before he touches her body!
Think about it….what is happening when you feel loved? Do you feel loved when someone tells you that you are awesome? Maybe you feel loved most when someone carves time from their busy schedule to spend time with you. When you receive a gift does it give you that special tingly feeling of being loved? When she washes your clothes and runs your errands for you, does that give you the warm I am incredibly loved feeling? What about when she holds your hand, hugs you tight with an extra squeeze and tops it off with a kiss or a spank on your butt? Does that spell love to you?
As we get older we find out that true happiness is not in how much you make or how many degrees you have or how big your house is or how fancy your car is. It’s finding peace and joy and a calmness in your life that will ultimately become the most important thing to you. Your family is what matters to you, love is what matters.
If life is not going like you dreamed, it can get better with inspiration and a desire for change never leave it to chance. A small change can become a better day which could lead to a better week which becomes a better month then year which becomes a great life! It feels amazing to experience life with the ones you love.
I think a lot of people don’t know what real love is. Anyone can buy flowers candy and jewelry. That’s an easy way to show your love! But what if she still doesn’t feel loved because you don’t say I love you or because you just don’t think to give her hugs any more and your kisses are half a second pecks? You could give her all the flowers candy and jewelry in the world and she would not feel loved if that is not her love language. Different love languages have different dreams, wants and expectations. Love is those little things you do every day to show you care and that you are thinking of them. It’s going out of your way to make them happy even if it is uncomfortable to you. The way you hold her hand when you think she might be worried or scared, or you save the last piece of your favorite cake for her. The random text in the middle of the day, just to say I love you or I miss you. The way you stop to kiss her when you pass her in the kitchen. It’s dedicating your special song to her and letting her eat your fries; telling her shes beautiful, even when she is in her sweats; with her hair in a crooked pony tail and no make up. It’s putting your favorite TV show on pause so she can tell you her latest idea to remodel the house. It’s slow dancing in the kitchen and laughing at each other till your cheeks are sore. Love isn’t about buying, it’s about giving. True love is in the gestures thought through and tailored just for her.
I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting a relationship with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when you see them walk into a room and smile at you. Your responsibility is to find out her love language and do what ever it takes to make her happy.
It’s never too late to turn it all around. Be honest with yourself and her. If there is some thing in your life that is not what you are proud of doing ….STOP. Life is way too short to continue in the wrong direction if it doesn’t point to love. You don’t have to cheat to lose your girl. You can lose your girl from lack of communication, neglecting attention and disrespect. It’s not always about what you do, some times it’s about what you DON’T do. Find out what makes her feel loved whether its words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service or my personal favorite physical touch. Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.
There is a difference between having a real relationship and just being together because that’s all you’re used to. There is a difference between meaning I love you and just saying it because that’s your routine or ritual. Do it because it’s in your heart not because you want some thing in return. There is a difference between being together and WANTING an intimate love life together. It’s a relationship not a routine.
Love Language Test: What Love Language Do You Speak?
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five ways to express and experience love that Chapman calls “love languages”: gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch (intimacy).